Reunion with Budokter.. and Rai

I went to Budokter today to see Rai. Haha akhirnya balik lagi yee.. Well it was kind of an emergency. 3 days ago I felt discomfort in my lower abdomen in the morning during my drive to the office, and when I arrived at the office, I saw that there's a faint spotting (flek). It happened again the next day (yesterday), where I experienced the cramps during the night. That night, I was so afraid there was something going on (early contraction) that I refused Raka to breastfeed, causing him to cry on top of his lungs for HOURS, unsoothable by Akang, but Mbak finally woke up and gave him UHT milk and soothed him to bed. By about 4-5am he woke up and I let him nurse because the pain had gone away.

Anyway, so yesterday I told Akang about the pain and the spotting. Akang said "Ya udah sms dr. Diah aja" and I replied "Gak enak lah orang gak pernah kesana lagi." But Akang insisted it's worth a try, nothing to lose lah. So he ended up being the one who sms her.. AND GOT AN INSTANT REPLY. "Istirahat aja dulu, kalau tidak berkurang sakitnya ke rumkit ya." Hwoaa!! How niiice of her... Even after that my husband replied by saying thank you, and she replied again "Sama2." :') So after that I called the hospital to make appointment that day but full (of course) but I can go the next day in the morning.

So off this morning before work I dropped by the hospital. There was a bit of drama before while driving there I called Akang and he said he won't accompany me because it's office hours. Namapun lagi hamil lebayness luar biasa ya, dan Akangpun berkata: "Emang nanti kenapa? Kan belum diperiksa udah berangan2 macem2" Which is true of him. Haha. Anyway, it turns out he did follow me later to the hospital, even though he was late and came just after I finished the USG.

After waiting for about 1 hour (the doctor was late), I was able to see her again. Hwoaa kangeen! Haha. Still the old usual jolly and kind self, except now she wears hijab (kan baru pulang haji ya.. Hamdalah semoga istiqamah ya Budok!). We went straight to the bed for the USG, she tried abdominal first but it didn't show so we had to do transvag. Alhamdulillah... she said everything's normal. No bleeding, the gestational sac is in good form, the fetus is starting to show. YA ALLAH ALHAMDULILLAAH.. Even though the gestational age is younger than expected. Based on LMP (19-12-12) should be about 8w, but based on size it's 7w3d. Since my menstrual cycle is irregular due to active breastfeeding so we go by the baby's size.

After that we discussed about the pregnancy, and I got a lot of information, new ones and refreshed ones (kata Budokter berkali2: "Ibu udah pada lupa ya.. baru juga 15 bulan yg lalu!"). Ya namanya hamil kan pelupa, Dok. Hehe. The most important ones:

• VBAC. According to her, the time requirement for VBAC is 18 months between the 1st and 2nd deliveries. Which means I qualify because it will be about 23-24 months between deliveries if all goes well. Yay!! But she warns that she cannot confirm just yet, the decision if I can VBAC can only be made closer to the delivery date, after she monitors things like: 1. ketebalan rahim, harus mencukupi, 2. ukuran bayi, tadi lupa nanya max. berapa kg, 3. semua2 harus normal intinya.
• Diet. If I want a VBAC, must be extra careful on what I eat so that the baby won't be too big, I won't get diabetes and other complications. So no donuts and cakes and after 3 months pregnant, no more white rice and say hello to beras merah. Intinya super duper dijaga makanannya. PR banget ini dr kemaren munching on rainbow cakes, Ch*tato abis 2 bungkus sendiri at one time, sempet makan mie instant, suka jajan di abang2, dan sederetan perilaku makan tak sehat lainnya. Hehe. Padahal hamil Raka strict loh dietnya. Tapi tetep ya anaknya bongsor gitu. Udah dari sononya kayaknya kali ya.
• Early contractions. So hamdalah it's proven that all iz well. She said if there's bleeding or contraction it would show on the USG, the gestational sac would be rugged line instead of a smooth line, indicating that it's surrounded by blood. But everything looks good and normal. If I ever feel the discomfort, I should just rest, and if it doesn't stop then I should go home from work and rest in bed. Then go to hospital if after bed rest, it still hurts. I should also drink a lot, since I pose at risk of urinary tract infection, so maybe the discomfort can be caused by that infection. Any kind of infection promotes the contractions, including UTI.
• No coitus until the discomfort stops alias libur dulu ya hubungan suami-istri.
• Breastfeeding is okay. Budokter said the oxytocin receptors in the uterus are not that many so it shouldn't create serious contractions even though we may feel some discomfort while breastfeeding. Intinya ya breastfeeding alone ga mungkin menyebabkan keguguran atau gimana ya, strong contractions are caused by many factors such as if I breastfeed Raka while having an infection or something. The point is: strong contraction --> multiple factors. Kata dokternya "Gapapa Bu, udah haknya sampai 2 tahun." Setelah gw curhat kalau gw gak siap banget harus nyapih dia, ihiks.
• Only folic acid supplement is needed for early pregnancy. Last time I was given this supplement which cost a lot and didn't say in the blister the contents. I googled it and found out that it was supplement for the 1st trimester containing folic acid and bla bla. Budokter said to stop that and consume Fol*vit instead that contained folic acid only. After 1-2 months then I can be given multivitamin and iron and calcium supplements.

All in all, it was SO RELIEVING to be able to talk to her. Because before I was a bit worried (baca: super galau) and I didn't know who to talk to. Even though we did pay quite a lot... but it was worth it to make us feel better, right?

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Rabid Mama: Raka's Language Development Skills

Since I’m missing my boy, let’s be a rabid mama for a while XD

 

Alhamdulillah for his age, his skills are considered normal if not a little advanced <- rabid :p

 

He can call the names of everyone in the house, usually their last syllables, except for Mama, Papa, Ninin (his grandma) and Teteh (my cousin, whom he should be calling ‘Tante’ but since Putri – Mbak’s 7yo daughter calls her Teteh so he copies her). So he can call Mbak (his nanny), Uti (Kakak Putri, Mbak’s daughter), Tun (Atun, another maid at our house), Din (our male helper), Maa Nuu (Mas Nus, our neighbour), Babe (Babeh, the foreman in the house that’s being built in front of ours). And like the little prince that he is, he usually calls us in a very bossy manner, especially for our helpers (maybe he learnt from his parents and his grandma ya). But only for his mama, he can call me reaaally softly and full of love :) So when he calls, he usually wants something. Such as “Tiii!! Ni!” (translate: “Putri! Sini!” while making hand signals to ask her to approach him. Or “Mbak! Mam!” or “Mbak! Mimi!” when he’s hungry and thirsty. And “Mama! Meh!” when he wants to nurse.

 

He can also identify animals. He can say “Gajah” for elephant, “Meong” for cat, “Mbek” for sheep or goat, “Beik” for bebek, “Onyet” for monkey and “Maung” for tiger (dunno where he learnt that, that’s Sundanese word! ^_^).

 

And since we expose him to TV and phones/tablets, he can say “Mbob” or “Pombob” for Spongebob Squarepants, “Beo” for Angry Birds (or any birds now in general) and “Lala” and “Po” for Teletubbies. So when we sing the Teletubbies song, we go “Tinky Winky, Dipsy..” and Raka will continue “Lala.. Po..” If he wants to watch Teletubbies on Youtube he’d go to my mum’s room where there’s a computer or take my mum’s iPad and say “Lala! Lala!”. But we always accompany him while watching TV and interact with him such as telling the story that’s on TV, we never leave him alone when he’s watching TV so the interaction is still active. So far it’s proven to be good for his development, as he now knows the animals and characters and can say the words because he watches them on TV. But we always let him watch kids channels only such as BabyTV and Cbeebies.

 

He can now identify himself by calling himself “Tata”. So when we ask him “Itu siapa?” He’d answer: “Mama.” And we ask again “Mamanya siapa?” He’d say “Tata!” while putting his hand on his chest to identify himself hehe.

 

Oh yeah, he’s multilingual too. Haha. He can say words in Indonesian, such as above. He can also say words in Javanese since Mbak, Kakak Putri, Mbak Atun, Mas Udin, Mas Nus all speak Javanese. His Javanese vocabs are “Aja!” (don’t!), “Emoh!” (don’t want/nggak mau!), and I think there’s more but I forget. Hehe. His English vocab, thanks to BabyTV, are “No!” and “Bye bye!”. Oh, and we just found, as stated above, that he can say the word “Maung” when he sees a picture of a tiger, which is Sundanese word for tiger.

 

Okay, I was about to write more about his other skills like gross motor, fine motor, etc but I guess I’ve said too much just for language only. XD Which is surprising because he didn’t speak until 1 year old and we kind of suspect he’d be a late talker (cos people say boys are considered to talk later than girls, especially when he’s active, because his energy is used to physical rather than cognitive or language). But, as active toddler as he is (running, climbing, always always always on the move), turns out his other developments are on track too. ^_^

 

Signed,

Rabid Mama

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2013 Resolutions

Never too late to make resolutions right? 2013, please let me have these:

1.       Move house: the plan that was supposed to be executed in 2011, this year we must be able to make it! Why? Because I’m giving birth to Rai this year, our room in my parent’s house will be too crowded for 2 adults and 2 babies. Plus the longer we delay, the more we’ll have to fix the house which is now starting to break apart because nobody’s living there and care for it.

2.       Healthy delivery: I reaaally want to give birth normally! But I don’t know if I’m allowed VBAC or not. There are so many conditions. They say it’s safe after 2 years, in my case, it will only be about 1 year and 11 months the distance between the first and second births, so 1-2 month short of the 2 years, depending on when I’ll actually deliver the baby this year, since my first pregnancy was 5 days after the due date. So I don’t know if my obgyn will allow VBAC or not. I don’t think this can be confirmed until the earliest 2^nd trimester or just about close to my due date. Cos who knows, maybe I’ll get preeclampsia again, in that case I’ll have to do another C-sect *knock on wood on the preeclampsia*

 

Well, those are my 2 main goals this year. There are many others, actually, but let’s just focus on those two.

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