Wednesday, 20 October 2010

Hijabi Baby

Pada suatu hari, terjadilah pembicaraan sebagai berikut diantara pasangan newlywed yang berbahagia ini..

Eneng: Kang, Eneng udh cerita belom? Waktu itu Eneng sama Mama lagi di mobil di jalan pulang, trus ngeliat anak kecil digendong pake jilbab gitu. Trus Mama Eneng bilang: "Tuh, anak kamu nanti kayak gitu ya."
Akang: Hahaha.. Kenapa yah Mama teh? Ya gapapa sih dibiasain dari kecil, biar kalo udah gede ga risih makenya, ga buka tutup seenaknya.
Eneng: *manggut2*
Akang: Tapi Neng, nanti anak kita InsyaAllah ga bakal pake jilbab kok...
Eneng: ???
Akang: ....soalnya kan anaknya cowok.
Eneng: (-_-") *masih obsesi pengen punya anak cewek*
Akang: Kan kalo cowok ada yang jagain Eneng, trus adeknya cewek.. jadi kakak cowok bisa jagain ade ceweknya. *keukeuh pengen anak cowok*
Eneng: Iya deh sayang, sedikasihnya aja ya sama Alloh...
Eneng dan Akang: *berdoa dengan khusyuk masing2 dalam hati semoga cepet diberikan amanah itu*

Semoga berhasil...... *fingers crossed*

Monday, 18 October 2010

Wichi's Cooking Capers: Chuck Steak Roast

Dulu di blog yang lama ada bagian bernama Wichi's Cooking Capers yang mendokumentasikan petualangan Wichi di dapur, hehe. Sekarang sebagai ibu rumah tangga sayapun jadi harus memasuki dapur setiap hari. Waktu belum menikah, saya paling sering ke dapur pas tinggal di Australia sendirian.. karena mau makan ya harus masak, berhubung makanan susah didapat dan muahal. Setelah menikah, saya diboyong kembali oleh suami ke Australia dan harus masuk dapur.

Awalnya agak kaget juga harus masak tiap hari. Bukan apa2, capek bo. Rata2 saya menghabiskan waktu 2 jam untuk masak 2 jenis masakan yang terdiri dari lauk berupa daging2an dan sayuran. Itu belum termasuk waktu di dapur buat cuci piring, dan nyiapin sarapan atau bekal makan siang saya dan suami kalo suami ke kampus dan saya kerja. Apalagi awal2 mulai masak langsung puasa.. beuhh... tantangan banget dah masak sore2 pas lagi kritis2ny puasa, udah gitu ga bisa diicip2 lagi masakannya.. masih newbie kan feelingnya belum terasah dengan baik, ga ngerti takaran yang pas gimana. Akhirny suami suka nambahin bumbu lagi pas mau dimakan karena seringkali ga ada rasanya. Huehehehee..

Anyway, sekarang sih udah mendingan. Untuk mengatasi capek udah dibeliin bangku kecil di Ikea, jadi pas motong2 or ngulek2 bisa sambil duduk. Trus udah mengubah mindset jd setiap capek dipikirnya ini ibadah yang dapet pahala berlimpah dari Alloh, amiin. Trus mengatasi kekecewaan respon suami terhadap masakan, sekarang udah mulai kenal selera suami, udah tahu dia sukanya dan ga sukanya apa, dan kalopun ga suka, udah ga kecewa dan rewel lagi. Hehe. Dan emang udah terbiasa aja ya di dapur, meskipun ga enjoy 100% and I wouldn't say cooking is my passion.. yet.

Hari ini saya coba nggak masak masakan Indonesia, tapi masakan Barat. Hehe gaya. Gara2 beli chuck steak yang murah di butcher, tapi ga tau gimana cara masaknya. Biasanya kalo daging sama saya disemur atau dibikin kare. Kalo steak ya dibakar. Tapi chuck steak ini denger2 sangat alot, kalo dibakar pasti jadi tambah alot. Makanya nge-google dan ketemu resep bikin chuck steak yang gampang dan ga repot di sini.

Hasilnyaaa:
Lumayan lah.. ini belum dikeluarin dari aluminium foilnya dan belum disajikan di atas piring.. nunggu nanti malam aja pas mau dinner. Sekarang udah ditutup lagi sama aluminium foil biar tetap hangat. Rasanya oke, meskipun kayanya nanti harus ditambah garam lagi, karena lidah suami Indonesia banget, garamnya harus berlebihh.. Kalo makanan Barat rata2 ga asin, gurih dan berbumbu kan. Overall, I am happy with this chuck steak roast. Yang penting ada rasanya, trus si dagingnya jadi empuk, dan sehat masaknya karena ga pake minyak!

Resepnya kurang lebih sama dengan yang disitus itu, tapi saya modifikasi ala Indonesia dikit:

CHUCK STEAK ROAST

Bahan:
1 kg chuck steak
2 bh wortel, potong kotak2
2 batang celery, iris2
1 bh kentang ukuran besar, potong kotak2
2 sdm mentega
garam
paprika/cabe bubuk


bumbu halus:
1 bh bawang bombay
4 siung bawang putih
3 bh kemiri
lengkuas, ketumbar, garam ga ditakar, pake feeling aja :)


Cara masak:
1. Siapkan aluminium foil di atas baking pan, letakkan potongan steak diatas aluminium foil. Oleskan bumbu halus diatas daging.
2. Letakkan potongan sayur diatas daging, lalu percikkan mentega (kalo cair) atau sebarkan potongan mentega (kalo padat).
3. Taburi dengan garam dan paprika atau cabe bubuk.
4. Tutup dengan aluminium foil, bisa beberapa lapis yang penting kuat untuk menahan air keluar dari roast nya.
5. Masukkan ke dalam oven yang sudah dipanaskan dengan suhu 210 derajat celcius.
6. Panggang dalam oven selama 1,5 jam sampai empuk.

Wednesday, 13 October 2010

The Scimitar and the Veil: Extraordinary Women of Islam

Author Heath, Jennifer.
Title The scimitar and the veil : extraordinary women of Islam / Jennifer Heath.
Publisher Mahwah, N.J. : Hidden Spring, c2004.
I. "Paradise lies at the feet of the mothers" : in the beginning : women of the prophetate -- II. "That does not come from you, but from her behind the curtain" : scholars of the Hadith -- III. "Be like wax and illumine the world. Be like a needle and work naked" : ascetics, saints, and mystics -- IV. "If you do not fall in battle, someone is saving you as a token of shame" : warriors and amazons -- V. "Drink from this cup, then be gracious to her who sent it by paying a visit after sunset" : rebels and concubines -- VI. "Listening stirs the heart to see god" : musicians and dancers -- VII. "We have left the account for the day of accountings" : rulers, regents, queen mothers, and philanthropists -- VIII. "To educate a woman is to educate the whole world ..." : tradeswomen and learned ladies -- IX. "Enjoy life! Who cares what people say?" : poets -- The five pillars of Islam.


The Scimitar and the Veil is a book written to introduce, and perhaps improve the perceptions of Western people on Muslim women. It accounts very comprehensively the history of famous or at least recorded Muslim women from the first woman to become a Muslim (Khadijah bint Khuwaylid RA) to queens, poets and tradeswomen of the 19th century.

So it is a very comprehensive book, around 465 pages.. and took me 2 months to finish reading it. And what do I think about it?

Well, the author has really gone to great lengths to research and write on these remarkable Muslim women. I became very engaged in the beginning, in the first section on the first Muslim women, those whose lives are personally touched by the physical presence of Prophet Muhammad SAW. How lucky they are to know him personally.. and to be loved by him! I've read before their stories, especially Prophet Muhammad SAW's wives or Ummul Mu'minin, such as Khadijah bint Khuwaylid RA and Aisyah bint Abu Bakr RA, but I was never able to really engage with it. I guess the stories or books I read were more of a historical account. What is different about this book is that it is (sometimes overly) romanticised. It actually portrayed the personal feelings of these women. Like how Khadijah RA dreamed of Muhammad SAW. It was told in this book that she went up to the roof of her house to get some air, then she watched a group of traders walked past and saw that Muhammad SAW was shining. It accounted, with dialogue, how anxious she was after she proposed to Muhammad SAW. And the part about Aisyah RA were also documented in such a way that I could actually feel what she was feeling and really could imagine what she is like. So it wasn't like reading a textbook (I used to feel this way when reading the previous books on Ummul Mu'minin).

Although, I'm sure a lot of people, particularly Muslim, would object that such great women are portrayed in this way. I mean who really knows for sure that Khadijah actually said or thought, or what the other Ummul Mu'minin thought in their hearts. So I think some of the dialogues are made up, just to spice up the story.. but I love it! I imagine too that those reading this book, especially women, would want a romantic story rather than a textbook-like account.

Other extraordinary women that were portrayed were scholars, warriors, queens, rulers, queen-mothers, tradeswomen, mystics, etc.. but mostly it really showed its "girl power" promise through the accounts of women warriors and rulers. I think the author is trying to say that "girls can really rawk" by going to war and even ruling a whole kingdom and be in power over men. Well, okay. I'm not really into this part. I don't like any accounts of war of violence, especially when women are involved. As for women leaders, well, surprisingly, I'm not into that either. I am totally into girl power, but I believe sometimes women and men have their place, naturally.

I'm not saying I oppose of women leaders and warriors. Just not interested. I am more interested in women who tend to their family more, and do it in piety of Allah and really happy doing it. Now that's girl power. ;)

I'm also not able to engage with chapters III, V and VI on saints/mystics, rebels/concubines and musicians/dancers respectively. Chapter III told about Muslim women ascetics or mystics, or in Islam we call them Sufi. Personally, I don't really approve of Sufism or those who submit to Islam in such a way they ignore other people or the environment around them. As if the only thing matters is their relationship to Allah SWT. Islam, in my view, is a very communal and social religion. That is why it is so comprehensive. So this chapter tells Muslim women, who, through their constant devotion in praying, crying, loving Allah SWT were able to perform miracles. Hmm.. really? I'm a bit skeptic on this.

The chapter on rebels and concubines also didn't appeal to me. Who likes the word "rebel" and "concubine" and have them associated with Muslim woman? Not me. Especially how they stated that Prophet Muhammad SAW had a concubine who was a Christian, Maria al-Qibtiyyah. If concubine here means it is a "secondary wife", then fine. But if it means a woman who is not legally married to him, but cohabits with him.. then I'm a bit concerned. The concubines that were portrayed here were those "residing in a harem and kept, as by a sultan, for sexual purposes". *sigh* Are men allowed to do this? And they are sultan, too! Those with high power. Isn't this zina? Although it is interesting to read about the politics going on in the harem with these concubines, I am a bit upset how it is connected to Islam with its strict sanction of zina. The next chapter on musicians and dancers also gave me a similar feeling with the previous chapter, as musicians and dancers are mostly associated with concubines who had these talents to be presented to please her master or sultan.


To be honest, the only chapter I thoroughly enjoyed was the first one. Towards the end it got boring for me, since it was too long and maybe I just got bored, so I started skipping pages, stories, and sometimes a whole chapter. The last chapter I didn't even bother to read. But I was able to read the part of how the person responsible for trades in Aceh and Gresik are women! I think that's the only time Southeast Asian women were mentioned. Which was sad, Cut Nyak Dien or RA Kartini should have had their places in this book. Most women portrayed originated from the Middle East, Africa or East Asia. Which got me thinking, if a similar book were to be written on Muslim women 20th century onwards..would Indonesia have gained more portion? After all, we are the largest Muslim country in the world...


Nevertheless, although there were some points I didn't agree on, I do agree this book is quite a treasure. Those wanting to learn about real Muslim women in history should read this book, especially women. Though I don't recommend it to men.. they might get boring reading the romanticised parts and may get the wrong ideas on the parts about concubines, polygamy, etc.


And I would just like to clarify some points that could be misleading Islam in this book:
1. Although in Islam polygamy is allowed, as stated in the Qur'an, but the conditions of it have to be met, i.e. the man is able to be just to his wives in all cases, the latter marriage is endorsed by the previous wife, etc.
2. Having concubines, meaning women not legally married to a man but can be involved in sexual relationships with them, are not allowed in Islam. This is called zina, and the sanction in the Qur'an is very severe. In fact, it is said one of the reasons polygamy can be allowed is to prevent committing the sin of zina.
3. The consumption of alcohol for drinks is prohibited in Islam. In this book the characters were described as drinking wine and even getting drunk. Prohibition of alcohol is debatable, though, some say that if it is in an amount that is not dangerous i.e. doesn't get the person drunk, then it is okay. As long as they don't get drunk. But for me, no alcoholic drinks (please note, it's drinks! not legal medicines) can go through my throat, thank you!
4. On the veil. From my readings, discussions, etc.. I have come to believe that the most important is the veil of the heart, rather than physical veil. But I do really recommend women to wear very decent clothes and not showing their body parts. For me, personally, that is a dignified woman who loves herself and most importantly loves Allah SWT. ;)

Wichi's verdict: unputdownable | read | skim | pass

Monday, 11 October 2010

(ending?) the honeymoon phase



In a week, I'll be married for three months. *plok plok plok* Alhamdulillah... But people say after three months, the "honeymoon phase" ends and we both enter the new reality of married life. One that is not all nice and sweet as in the honeymoon phase.

Honestly, thinking that things could fall worse is a scary thought. Well of course! I mean, we didn't take three months to have our bickerings now and then, mostly over simple things. Yup, my overdramatic self had to cry and wail in the last few weeks she has become a missus. :(

Fortunately, I am very blessed by Allah. He has shown me that everything has a meaning, every cloud has a silver lining. So I might be crying and wailing one day, but it always ended with a new dawning thought on what I should do to improve myself, what we should do to improve this family and take it to heaven..aminn.

So what does it feel to be married? When asked this question (and I've had plenty since the ijab qabul ^^) I would smile and reply "Alhamdulillah..." For sure, there are mixed feelings. I've come to realise that there are some pretty undesirable character traits that I own, and my husband, though soft and caring, sometimes do practice tough love when I'm being overly unbearable. Hehe. So me the drama queen often make big fuss out of small things and thinking I'm the most unfortunate person faced with the most unfortunate incident ever. If you know me well enough, you'll know that's the sort of person I am. (Bahasa Indonesia-nya: lebay! hehe) But my dear husband is trying to fix me on this, to get me grounded. And hey, wasn't that what I was always looking for?? Realising I'm too much of a dreamer, I had asked God to find me a man that can bring me down to earth so I could face life together with him forever and ever. And He gave me one :) But sometimes it's hard to give up the fairytale-princess world...

I think living together with the intensity that a married couple go through is impossible if not faced with some little problems. I mean, we're still adjusting to each other, especially when you haven't known him/her that long. So as big as the problem may sound at the time, when it's over, I don't really make a fuss about it because it's normal for me.

But overall... Subhanallah... being married is "gRRReat!!!" *scottish style* All the good stuff I've ever imagined being married is like actually happened to me. Alhamdulillah.. hihi.. My husband is a sweet, caring, responsible guy and I wouldn't want to trade him with another! Haha. Alhamdulillah.. Alhamdulillah.. It is so true what the Prophet had said, marriage is fulfilling half of religion. I do feel more complete as a wife.

Our journey is long, and I'm sure not always filled with the sweet stuff.. but when there are rocks ahead, I know they are just reminders to lead us both back to the righteous path, to our original commitment to each other to what marriage is, and it's piety to our one and only God Allah subhanahuwata'ala and as a means to lead us to the heavenly afterlife..

But going back to the beginning, just before I end this post.. Will the Baktiluginas end their honeymoon phase?? Most likely not.. well, not until December anyway... In the meantime, we're enjoying our 5-month honeymoon in Brisbane, Australia.. courtesy of AusAid.^^v

...and don't forget, our first honeymoon in Bali is presented by the lovely girls of Gerombolan Siberat! :-*

Wednesday, 6 October 2010

Mengumpulkan Amal Jariyah - teaching at TPA IISB

It's Wednesday and I am already preparing the lesson plan and finding resources for TPA IISB on Sunday. Since before I even came to Brisbane, I was already asked to teach these children. TPA stands for Taman Pendidikan Al Qur'an or Sunday School, like the one Christian children go to in church, Muslim children go to TPA in the mosque. Originally it is not always on Sunday, it can be anytime, not always weekly as well. Usually in Indonesia we go to TPA after school to learn religion. In Brisbane, under Indonesian Islamic Society of Brisbane, we service the Indonesian Muslim children to learn about Islam, because in school they don't have Islam as a subject (not like in Indonesia), unless they go to an Islamic school. But most children who go to TPA are children of students who don't go to Muslim schools but to a regular state school, or children of Indonesian workers or permanent residents who also don't get religious knowledge in school.

Aaanywaay.. I just want to share my experience teaching children at TPA. Now I'm not a children person. I can never feel comfortable around children, except probably when I get to have one. I don't get much exposure to little kids so I never know how to act around them :D So when at first I was asked to teach in the Kelas Balita (under 5's) I was a bit concerned.. luckily my husband -- who taught in the boys class -- suggested I teach English Class instead. With an IELTS score of 8.5 (pameer.. hehe) I think I can manage that!

Ternyata oh ternyata.. (loh ganti bahasa..) Di kelas Bahasa Inggris itu terdiri dari anak2 Indonesia yang sama sekali atau sangat sedikit sekali bisa Bahasa Indonesia, dan pengetahuan tentang Islam pun sangat minim karena mereka lahir dan besar, atau sebagian besar hidupnya dihabiskan di Australia dan orang tuanya pun jarang atau nggak pernah ngasih pengetahuan agama Islam ke mereka. Di English Class ada 12 orang, dengan range umur antara 6 sampai 15 tahun. Nah bingung kan gimana ngajarinnya. Tingkat pengetahuannya pun beda-beda. Ada yang udah bisa baca Al Qur'an sampai yang buta. Mau ngajarin pake metode ke anak kecil, yang gede ga nyambung. Mau diseriusin, yang kecilnya bingung dan ga merhatiin jadinya. Untung dibantu 2 guru lain, tapi mereka kemarin sempet liburan, dan saya sendiri ngajarnya. Megap.. megap.. deh.. Jadinya, saya harus mikir 7 keliling buat ngasih materi apa dan kayak gimana sebelum kelas berikutnya. Karena saya juga bukan guru, apalagi guru agama.. Dulu pernah ngajarin les itupun ogah2an (hehe maap ya Fitri..) karena bingung jelasin Kimia, Fisika dan Matematika.. trus mau ngajarin sepupu di rumah yang mau UAN juga yang ada dia bingung dijelasin sm gw yg bingung, hehe. Ternyata, saya lebih pede ngajarin alif-ba-ta-tsa dan Iqra, nyeritain tentang kisah nabi dan akhlak Muslim yang baik.. daripada ngajarin Kimia yang saya punya ijazahnya :p

Nah, minggu kemarin saya datang ke TPA. Disana sepi, padahal udah datang telat karena mampir ke Museum dulu. Udah mau ga dateng aja tuh awalnya, cape abis seharian jalan2 sampe negara bagian sebelah (New South Wales, di perbatasannya sih.. Tweed Heads), mana saya yang nyetir pula.. tapi namany juga ibadah.. niatnya ibadah, ngumpulin amal jariyah :) Udah punya feeling bakal sepi karena ada Pesta Rakyat (semacam perayaan 17 Agustusan, tp diundur karena kemarin pas puasa 17annya). Dan bener aja, sampe sana sepi, udah ada  beberapa anak yang pulang. Tapi salah satu guru tetep mau ngejalanin, dan nyuruh saya bimbing baca Iqra untuk salah satu anak perempuan kelas 2 SD, Vila. Ternyata anak ini enak diajak ngobrol, Bahasa Indonesianya bagus, Inggrisnya juga okeh. Jadi nyambung deh. Terus ada temennya dateng, si Farsya. Masih Prep (umur 5 tahunan), tapi udah Iqra 5. Sementara si Farsya saya bimbing baca Iqra, si Vila dikasih Word Search tentang Shalat yang udah saya siapin buat murid saya di English Class. Vila senang sekali, sampe berterimakasih sama saya dan mengerjakan word searchnya dengan giat. Hehe. Udah gitu saya kasih mereka worksheet tentang urutan shalat dan urutan wudhu. And they enjoyed it very much. Aduuh senang yaa kalo kaya gituu.. soalny murid saya di English Class tanpa ekspresi semua. Kalopun ada yang pinter, ngomong mulu, yang lainnya diem. -.-"

But, hopefully next time, I can make the lesson as enjoyable as last week.. meskipun saya ga dapet ngajar Vila dan Farsya lagi.. hiks.. they're such lovely and bright girls.. aduh... seneng deh...

Saya sangat terbantu dengan situs ini, Worksheets for Kids, yang menyediakan worksheet Arabic alphabet, karena besok materinya Arabic Writing, kisah Nabi Isa A.S. dan setor hapalan. Jadi dengan worksheet ini saya ga bikin mereka bosan, mudah2an... dan saya siapin dari sekarang biar bisa diprint gratis di kantor huwehehee..

Semoga saya bisa mengajar dengan baik... itung2 siap2 buat ngajarin anak sendiri... Amiinn..

TPA IISB 2010 performing at Halal Bi Halal September 2010